Thank you for being My Princess

For the past 6 years, my life has been in constant change, drastic changes, ups and downs, happiness and sadness, joy and drama, beyond the normal variance of life... Divorce, marriage, moving countries and homes, shifting careers, and more... But throughout those 6 years, there has been one amazing constant, my source of unconditional joy and happiness, my source of deep genuine love, my inspiration and hope, my Princess: KOUKA, my sweet little daughter...

No matter what my life brought me, my little princess was always there, smiling, laughing, playing, growing up, learning, and with every step she took, with every new adventure she lived, with every game, I also grew up, and learned, and realized that no matter what, my princess is always there for me, giving me strength and happiness, when we are together, or apart, when playing together, or when looking at her lovely pictures...

For 6 years, my love for being a DAD has grown more and more... For a person who did not value family ties before, for a person who never played with children before, for a person who could not commit to living in once place for more than a few years, KOUKA has transformed me completely, enjoying being a DAD, loving commitment, seeking stability, and planning for a future that is beyond a few years, planning for a future for my little princess, with me in it...

For 6 years, I have been unable to explain or express what KOUKA has taught me, or what she means to me... Because with every day that passes, I realize that there is nothing more precious or genuine like this love of a DAD to his daughter... It is simply priceless and indescribable...

No matter what I say or write or do, nothing can fully describe the joy and happiness my little princess brings me... And I hope that I can do the same to her, over and over again for the rest of my life...

I might be repeating a lot of my words, because for the past week, as we come to celebrate her 6th birthday, I have been trying to write this blog, but every time I fail to find the right words, or the right expressions...

And so, simply, to my little Princess KOUKA, thank you for being my PRINCESS...

I vow to continue to learn and strive to become a better DAD with every moment...

Happy Birthday KOUKA, Happy 6th Birthday my precious, Happy Birthday my love...

Thank you for everyone who sent lovely birthday wishes, wishing you all the same for you and your lovely families...

Love and Peace to all...

BISS (Abu Kouka)

When there is a WILL, there is always a WAY...

It's amazing how each of us is different, the way we think, the way we react, the way we understand, the way we feel... Really, each one of us is so unique in all those sets of actions that we may do when put in the exact same situations!!!

One important overall action that is one of my favorites, is BEING POSITIVE... Facing problems and hurdles with positivity, trying to learn from situations and gain a positive lesson... Refusing to hate, keeping calm, and hoping for the best always... Persevering and not quitting till the end... Facing obstacles with solutions and alternatives... Handling obstacles and changes in a positive manner, trying to resolve and overcome all issues in a positive way...

In my life I have been through a lot of instances where without my positive attitude I could have lost a lot, my life even... And I have seen a lot of my friends do the same, embracing hope and positive attitude and keep going forward towards the best there is... It doesn't always work, but it's more fun and exciting going on this journey of change, of resolution, of triumph, of winning, of overcoming, it's more fun doing that while being positive...

You got fired from your job, look at it as an opportunity for change, to look for new ones, a better one maybe, a more exciting job, a job you always dreamed of... But you have to work to get it, search and apply, improve your skills, network and make contact with key people who can help. It's not your positive attitude alone that will get you your dream job while sitting playing with your PlayStation 24/7 and expecting the employer to look eagerly for you!!!

You discovered you have an illness, well, besides getting the right treatment, you need the positive attitude to help you overcome whatever disease you got. Think about changing things in your life if it helps your case... Join groups who can help you deal with the illness... Volunteer with associations who work on your illness, maybe try to help others who are in the same boat, but they unfortunately fell in despair and negativity...

You got a divorce, maybe it was not working out and you are better off on your own, or with someone else... Or maybe you need to really work hard on yourself to win your spouse back, and prove you can make it with the new YOU... However nasty and devastating and sad your divorce is, there is always something positive to take from it, there is always a positive way to deal with it and handle it...

And this is my special one, which everyone have been asking me about recently: WEIGHT GAIN & LOSS!! A lot of us get depressed when we gain weight, when you start trying on those clothes that you like and discovering that it doesn't fit you anymore!! And I'm talking here about those of us who gained weight because of eating or because of laziness!! The medical conditions of obesity are beyond my expertise... But as far as dealing with normal weight gain, well, deal with it, positively... Don't sit and whine, or sit depressed, eating more depression food, like finishing a Nutella jar every night, because you are depressed and you can't control it!!!

Of course you can deal with it positively. Like I did... I gained a lot of weight over the past few years... And although it never bothered me, this Fall, I decided that getting fit and losing those extra kilos is an area I wanted to tackle... And for those who were following my updates on Facebook or Instagram, yes I lost 13 kilos in just 4 months!! It did not come easy, and I did not take a magic potion or eat those weird foods that taste awful!! I ate chocolates, I ate hotdogs, I ate bread, I ate chips, I ate whatever I wanted, yet differently. And above all, I have to give the biggest credit to this gadget that helped me achieve my goal, the FITBIT FLEX fitness bracelet. Again, the bracelet doesn't have magical powers, nor will it do the work for you while you keep doing exactly what you used to do to gain those extra kilos... First of all, I handled this positively, meaning I did not let my over weight depress me. I just handled it as a target that I need to reach. And along the way, if I am not progressing according to plan, I'll change something or do something different or do more work to get on track... Always staying positive, and believing that I can do it... As for how exactly I did that, that's a different blog, or actually might be a series of blogs that I will need to write and discuss with others who are interested in this topic...

To end this blog, I want to thank all of you who stood by my side in my low moments, in my problems, in my desperate moments and reminded me to put on my positive attitude and face life with a smile on my face... Thank you for being part of my life, my positive happy life :)

Now off you go, think about your life, your issues, and how you can face it all in a positive manner, and achieve something... I am myself have been dealing with all the accumulated issues I gathered over the years in a positive manner, and it has been going well, being resolved one after the other, hoping to achieve all my goals very very soon...

Good luck folks...

BISS

Politics is a Game!!

For everyone who still thinks and believes that his/her political party is THE ONE which is fighting for what is RIGHT and GOOD, I have two descriptions for you: NAIVE or BLIND!!

Politics is a GAME, and not any game, it's one the dirtiest games ever to exist on earth!! In politics it's never about what is good or what is right for the country or the people, it's always about what's good and what's best for the party, the party members, or mostly for the party leaders!!

Parties try to control and influence every aspect of our lives as much as possible, with whatever cost, as long as it keeps them in power. They interfere in the financial sector, social matters, laws and regulations across the board, taxes, health care services, even religion!!! Yes, RELIGION!!

You see, through out history, even before Islam and Christianity and Judaism, religion was always, and will always be controlled by the strong politicians. Kings controlled religion, even modified it, to suite their interests!! Rulers fought over power, with wars and assassinations and divisions, all in the sake of controlling empires... At some point, religious leaders, influenced by politics, had citizens fight in the name of God to capture territories, and rewarded soldiers with deeds in heaven!! It was all to serve the politics, not GOD!! And the examples never stop till today...

Now here is the trick: It is OK to be a member of a party and join their dirty political game. This is becoming part of our social life, part of our democratic life!! What is not acceptable to think that you are actually in the RIGHT or IDEAL party, and that everyone else in ten other parties is wrong!! They are actually doing exactly what you are doing. Each member is defending their own party, in this huge dirty game. As long as you admit this and is aware of this, you are being realistic and open.

The issue here is where this line between promoting and defending your party, and attacking and destroying the other, where this line stops!! It is a very blurry line unfortunately!!

Some use wars, crime, killings and assassinations... Some use money and bribery... Some use prostitution and sexual seduction and scandals!! Some use religion and traditions to command you and control you!! And so many other ways that we can't even detect or account for...

All those secrets, scandals, spy files, assassinations, conspiracy theories, they would amaze you with the amount of deception and lies and crimes that underlying a lot of those big democracies as well dictatorships. And we are all part of it, we vote for those people, we work for those people, we obey and listen to those people... And that makes us part of whatever dirty game is going on....

And the interesting part is that no matter how good or bad a person is, once they get into politics, they are transformed gradually into beasts, serving their interests and their party and their leaders... They are brainwashed, controlled, lied on, but they choose to believe the lies, until another party does a better job in brainwashing them... It's part of the game...

In addition, there is one important thing to know here: Politicians are Excellent Speakers and Slick Liars... They utilize these skills to control the masses, to make you believe what they want you to believe, to make you act based on their strategy, to make you defend them blindly, sometimes costing lives and blood and destruction!! And if they ever lose any of these two skills, you know that their political career is coming to an end...

There are no friends in politics, rather there are alliances, partnerships which benefit all parties involved. Once those benefits stop, or if your goal changes and contradicts with those partners, the alliance comes to an end. Your partners and allies can suddenly become your enemies. And the other way is valid too. You can be in a long harsh battle with an opponent, till the moment when there are circumstances or conditions that dictate a necessary alliance between those enemies. And hence, in the sake of political gain, your enemy can become your partner!! 

There is no absolute GOOD in politics, there is the good for the party, for its members and leaders. Any initiative which is bad for the country, the people, or other parties, can be GOOD to a party if it serves its needs and benefits!! And this same initiative, if circumstances change, it can become bad, and politicians can masterfully explain why they reconsidered their position, without losing grounds. That's a skill of smart politicians!!

You, as a member of any specific party, you are willingly joining that party in its dirty game... You are accepting the lies, you are accepting to be brainwashed and controlled by that party!!

And so, for everyone out there, please note that you are NO BETTER than anyone else who opposes your views or politics. You simply lie on different sides of the dirty game, each playing for their own team, using different strategies and techniques than your opponents!! At the same time, when choosing a party to defend and join, please check which one suits you more than others, don't waste your time looking for the ideal or the clean or the open party. Those descriptions do not exist in politics, PERIOD. Don't even try convincing others or arguing about this point!!

Finally, learn about politics, learn the techniques, learn how to analyze and campaign and calculate gains and losses in politics. Educate yourself. Don't be a blind follower. Socialize and talk about politics with an open mind. Try to explore and learn about your party as well as about others. Be open to change, switching, and evolution... We are all part of politics, we have to be, more or less... So let's do it in the best possible way, and history will judge us...

Good luck to all of you in your dirty games...

Game on... 

BISS